Well, I was always shy and even though I was 33, this was my first girlfriend as an adult -- and she is guilty of infidelity. She went crazy over a pregnant friend of mine, for crying out loud, that I had 'permission' to go to a doctor's appointment with. She told me that I was sweet for wanting to help and "Don't worry, I'm not the jealous type." Yet, after she suddenly 'lost it', she tells me that she didn't like me hanging around that person.
Sue's destructive, intoxicating habits (you know what that means) mess with her mind. All of that, plus psych meds, surely don't help with her schizoaffective mental illness. "It's how I was raised," I was surprised to hear.
She won't like anybody even suggesting her habits could be be bad for her. "I'll just get another job!" was her response when I reasonably asked "What if we needed the money for something else?"
She lost our upcoming marriage and family. As a retaliation (for something that didn't happen) she immediately tried to have sex with this guy I knew. Told him that I cheated and asked if he wanted to get together, smoke pot ("Weed makes me horny."), and fool around; but he stuck up for me and called her an f'in whore.
In the end, she got with a big, balding guy in his middle fifties who was at the mental health center with her.
Having a one-night-stand is something she's told me that she's done before when someone cheats on her; and I doubt I'm the first one she's been wrong about. No wonder there's an STD; glad I didn't lose my virginity with her. At least she told me about that problem beforehand. I remember reading that it was curable and I asked why she didn't get it taken care of. "I just never got around to it."
At first, she said that she "didn't necessarily want kids". I told her that I would have to be married to her first if we had children and she liked that. In reality, she definitely wants kids and it was at the end that it entered her mind that I never wanted a child and got upset. Trying to confront her with her misunderstanding over that, she just said "I've got to go." and left. She flip-flops, forgets, and is ultimately paranoid and just is not in control.
After my heartbreak, I texted that I didn't even want to be her friend and that she never loved me. She actually called me up surprised and wondered if we were still okay! It was like she didn't even understand why I was upset. Did she not think I would know from others what went down?
She tried to make this ending seem like it was my fault and tells me that it's hard being with me because "You're not into the same things. The smoking, drinking, and drugs." A friend of mine told her "He doesn't smoke, drink, use drugs plus he's a virgin!" and the response was, "I know, but I want my weed." I told her in the beginning that I wasn't interested in the stuff and she said that was "good and healthy". I assumed that she didn't use it, but I never actually came out and asked. Later, I learned that she did it most every day she returned from the mental health center. . .and she says that she would "never give it up for anybody".
I was told "When you love someone, you take the good and the bad." That's true, but to me, when you love someone, you want to help. I never said I was leaving her or demanded that she stop. I wanted to support/help her and be someone good in her life, which maybe she never had before. I didn't just stop caring for her although she thought I did. She tells my friend that she was "tired of hiding". She had known that she lied to me when she said she was going to give it up because she cared about me. I remember telling her "That would be good for you. It would be good for us."
I remember asking --- before I knew what she did --- "Is it because of someone else?" and she said no. That she needed to take a break: "I need to work on myself before I can work on us." She had no intention of that; she's a heartless person. I know that I asked her if she would "take my heart" a couple days before she just went off.
I know that I deserved better and I thankful that there was nothing like a divorce or children involved. I was good for her; but it was a one-way love.
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