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Several years ago (about 3) I found several profiles about him, on a site that is since defunct, dontdatethisguy.com .. he must be older than age 49 by now, if not years older (I did not save WHEN the profiles were posted, and there's no way of finding out now, since the web site came down.):

“I never would have guessed it but looking back, should have seen all of the signs. What a fool I was”

“Age: 47 Race: White WOW! Someone sent me this website and I thought it was a joke. What a sick SOB. I was introduced to him by what I thought was his ‘girlfriend’ at an event recently. She turned around and he is hitting on ME! Should have been a red flag. He is quite good at it but based upon this information, he must be a MASTER at it. I hope every woman he has come in contact with will check out this site. Nevermind the lies, but think about the health repercussions to all of these women. If he is this good at manipulating, I would bet he is quite good at making them think he is a ‘one woman guy’ I don’t believe he would even know where to start to do that! This really makes me sick. There are so many women out there falling victim to sick people like Bob. I believe he may be the worst I have heard about in quite some time, well next to Tiger and Jesse that is! Gee, what a super category to be in the company of! Does he have kids? Wow, this is something else. Sick stuff.”

“Bob, You have got to wake up and get your life in order. This is no one’s problem but your own. All these ladies are looking for is some validation that their emotions and time spent on you were not in vain. They don’t want to be grouped into some mass victim pool like Holocaust victims. It is not just about apologizing. It is about making it personal. These ladies want to know that even if they were one of many they had a quality that you were drawn to that no one else shared. You cannot treat this like a class-action suit. The first thing you will need to do is humble yourself. Your actions were obviously very intentional. More than apologize you have to open up and explain what your goals were with this personna you created. It is my recommendation that you refrain from all male/female relationships until you have completed a treatment program. Dr.Phil”

PROFILE COMMENTS:
“There is a reason for this type of behavior; it is called ‘Narcissistic Personality Disorder’ which is still no excuse to CONTINUE to hurt so many innocent women. There is really no need in me posting any comments about ScumBob, due to the fact I would just be repeating what has already been posted, and he has already wasted enough of my time. Just thought the information below would be informative to the women he has hurt and things to look out for in the future. I wish happiness for all the women that have been involved in such a meaningless act caused by one selfish, lying, cheating, ego driven, person. Narcissistic personality disorder is a condition in which there is an inflated sense of self-importance and an extreme preoccupation with one’s self. A person with narcissistic personality disorder: Takes advantage of other people to achieve his or her own goals Has feelings of self-importance Exaggerates achievements and talents Is preoccupied with fantasies of success, power, beauty, intelligence, or ideal love Has unreasonable expectations of favorable treatment Requires constant attention and admiration Disregards the feelings of others, lacks empathy Has obsessive self-interest Pursues mainly selfish goals He has a super-sized ego. In his eyes, he’s Superman and believes everyone else should think so too. ‘They’re more likely to cheat because they feel they don’t have to play by the rules.’ They always see things as power struggles – you’re a winner or a loser. Such a man would ‘get a thrill out of cheating because it’s a game and he’s winning.’ He has no sense of guilt. Men who don’t feel remorse or guilt when they do something wrong are prime candidates for cheating. He’s an excellent liar. We don’t mean an occasional exaggeration about his golf handicap. ‘We’re talking about the more selfishly motivated lie to maintain appearances or avoid an unpleasant reaction. Most of us feel guilt or self-consciousness when we lie. Not this man. He doesn’t feel the sting that people normally feel. He’s a passion junkie. Some men just love the beginnings of relationships, when it’s all champagne, roses and stolen weekends. When the relationship naturally settles, ecstasy cools but intimacy deepens, and he may start jonesing for a new passion fix. Victim # ??

Posted On: May 29, 2010 “Location: 2 Gee, Bob, speaking of ‘pitiful’, what about all the time you spent venturing from one bed/home/ ‘girlfriend’, to the next, and all that time YOU could have spent with family and friends? How COULD you have any friends because your only hobby is using innocent women for your own selfish gain. As far as PICS go, they are everywhere now because you are ever so popular! That should make you happy. Quite the ‘star’ aren’t you Bob? As far as ‘this too shall pass’, yes, the repercussions to us all from what you did, will pass, but unfortunately for those unsuspecting women out there that you are ‘hunting’ now I am sure, the kind of person you are will NEVER change. So save your lame and very insincere apologies and by all means let us have our ‘diatribe and roundtable discussion’ (Love those ‘Bob words’) and share our ‘angst’ with each other. WE are the ones who have suffered from your selfishness, not YOU. YOU could care less about any of us. You sought us out, you got what you wanted and then you went on to see how much more you could get. Oh, and the “good health” comment is quite sick actually, considering what you did and the way you did it. Best wishes Bob! Golfergonebad

Posted On: May 27, 2010 Location:3 This diatribe has obviously touched off quite a ‘roundtable’ of conversation amongst those involved. And by the way, it is fairly easy to identify the vast majority of those that are posting, based upon your comments, and the pics you are using. I am willing to personally, individually, in person, apologize to anyone who feels they have been offended by my actions. If you don’t want, or aren’t willing to accept my apologies, you may want to consider that this ‘comiserative coffee club’ is a psychological/emotional venting resource for you, and I hope it helps. The time, energy and effort invested seems rather pitiful, but that is your decision. I am sure your family, friends, etc.. would find greater value in your time and attention being focused in more productive ways. If you want an apology, please contact me through other means than this website. I am going to give those that feel I have ‘wronged’ them until next Tuesday, June 1st to contact me. After the 1st I will do everything in my power to contact you. It is my ambition to do whatever I can to apologize. I can’t make it better, I can only simply say, ‘I’m sorry’, and ask for your forgiveness...which you may or may not grant me. At the end of the day....this too shall pass, and my wishes for you are good health and happiness. Apologies

Posted On: May 26, 2010 “Location: 4 Golly gee Bob, how very noble of you to offer up such a lame apology. Too bad it is WAY too little, and WAY too late! Here’s a thought. How about if we all get together and send you our lab work bills? I am sure we could get a “bulk rate” on the postage! How you can live with yourself is beyond me! Toogoodforyou”

Posted On: May 24, 2010 Location: 5 To this individual and others who have posted their disappointment, I apologize for my behavior. I understand your angst and wish you the best. Take care. Apologies"

Posted On: May 24, 2010 “Location: 6 Welcome to my world...it is not a good one” “I was sent to this website by a friend. Little did I know what I would find when I got here. How a human being can do this to another is beyond me. The lies, all of the lies. How can Bob live with himself or better yet, how can he look in the mirror every day? How are these women supposed to move on to any kind of ‘healthy’ relationship after this type of treatment? I am not sure what would drive a human being to treat someone the way that Bob treated people who did nothing to him but care. It deeply saddens me and makes me very angry that he will keep doing this with no regard to the damage he is causing them. I hope women will check this site when he asks them out. I know that I will never be able to trust another man again for a very long time. Way to go Bob and thanks a ton!”

PROFILE COMMENTS: “To Victim# ? and any others who have posted comments on this site. Whoever is ‘psycho’ enough to be sending emails to my friends, sending copies of these postings via snail mail to individuals who have nothing to do with your rantings, and creating a false online presence...it is only a matter of time before I figure out who it is. I have apologized to any individual who will listen, for whatever indiscretions my actions may have caused harm to them. I’m not perfect, and I don’t believe I have met anyone else who is perfect. For anyone that needs to hear it from me face to face, please reach out and contact me. For anyone who continues to post on this site and continues to pursue additional efforts to reach out to individuals who have nothing to do with ‘supposedly - you and I’. I am asking that you cease those actions now. Failure to do so will result in civil and potentially criminal charges being filed. I may not know who you are today, but the list is rather short (shorter than reported), and I will take action. I’ve already started my investigations. Please move on with your life, get some counseling (if warranted), and understand that your electronic postings, emails, etc....can all be tracked back to your computer’s address. Good bye.”

Apologies Posted On: June 01, 2010 “He is a manipulator a liar and a cheater. He dated me well over a year. I just found out there were at least 2 others” “Player, cheater top of the charts! Not only will he make you think you are the only one, he will play on your emotions, make you feel ‘special’ and when he leaves you, he will be heading to another woman’s home! He has met their children, has children of his own. too. They would be really proud of him I bet. I am sorry to say that I fell for his insane act. He is as smoothe as they have ever been! I feel so sorry for all of the very nice women he has caused so much pain to but most important, to the ones that he is seeing now that don’t know what he does. Don’t feel stupid like the rest of us! Don’t give him anymore sick pleasure, don’t feed into this very sick way of life that he so enjoys. Taking pleasure in causing so much pain. That is what he does. He is very good at what he does!”

“Name: Bob Bolton Birthday: Age: 47 Height: 6ft4” “Weight: 245” “Race: White” “Bob will make you think you are the only one. Bob will use your money to pay for everything. Bob will give you a card once in a while but when it is all finished, you will be left with nothing but a very broken heart and you will feel incredibly stupid! He will make you believe that you are the only one and that the “pressures” of work have taken all of his time, when in fact it is just the pressure of juggling all of these women! He will seduce you, and then once he reels you in, he will be incredibly selfish and you know what? You will fall for it because he is a master manipulator. God help the next ones and the ones he is doing now that have no clue!”

“Bob has dated multiple women at the same time. He has them in just about every state. Four in the same neighborhood! He got caught in the act up close and personal but all along was with two more anyway. Bob is a smoothe talker, ladies man, yeah he is good-looking but there is nothing inside. No moral compass in life, no conscience. Bob has continuously hurt very nice women. Women who loved him and wanted the same in return. His story was the same with every one. That is why is was so easy. The lies, the risk he posed to so many women’s health. Bob is a father and a grandfather. What a great example he does put forth. Look into those baby blues and hear the great line of ‘bs’ he throws at you, and you too, will be hooked. He will take your heart, your soul, make you believe that you are ‘the only one’ when in fact he is out scoring on every night, yes, it has been proven, every night with someone else. Many, multiple women with positively no regard for anyone but himself. Tiger Woods has nothing on Bob Bolton. May god have mercy on him because the women he has scorned will surely not!”

“Bob has a women in every city! Bob dated me for a year and many others in the Tampa area. If you think you are the only one you are not!”