Enver Herman Jappie
||: Enver Herman
|Occupation||: Accessories Manager in Motorcycle shop|
||: Dandenong, Australia
Ok...where do I start? Lovely girly friend of mine, we met while we were apprentice bakers in Berwick, used to go paintballing together all the time, concerts n shiznit. I can't believe some of the shit she's been through with this bloke tho. He gives us all a bad name!!! Thought I'd give everyone a 'heads up'.No Psycho Updates Found
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Anyways, this friend of mine started dating this guy, he seemed really nice and I was happy for them. Just after the one year mark she told me she was feelin really trapped and realised this wasn't where she wanted to be in life. She had a new job managing a bakery and the hours were starting to take its toll, and Enver was at her place every day when she woke up and when she went to bed. He was driving her mental with his clingy-ness.
Push came to shove and after several talks of trying to get him to be a little more independant of her, she realised that she had become this poor bastards whole world. He didn't want to hang out with his friends ("they're all stoners" she was told...what and he's not?!) and whenever she wanted to do something with us (her friends) he would phone or message her like a million times a night. He got suspicious and cranky with her having friends of her own and she couldn't handle his possessiveness. She didn't want to break his hear but he was driving her mental. She told him to hit the road.
After she broke up with him she started seeing this other bloke, and then when Enver found out all she got, night after night, week in, week out for about TWO MONTHS was Enver calling to abuse her, believing she was two timing him and accusing her of this. He even rang her long time best friend since primary school and started bleeding to her, trying to get her to fix it! All this did was strain her relationship with her other half and piss off my friend! When talkin to the BBF (best-best-friend) didn't work, he started with the "I'm gonna kill myself, life's not worth living with out you" bullshit that he STILL PLAYS.
I've known this woman for a bloody long time and she tells me almost everything. I know she doesn't two time people. That's not her style.
Several occasions while she was at work she had to deal with this suicide crap, and on AT LEAST A DOZEN occasions she has been on the phone trying to talk sense into him. Even the new boyfriend has had enough of talkin to this wanker.
They went for a break out to the country and for FOUR NIGHTS RUNNING they had to deal with his suicide bullshit way into the early hours of the morning. I've had her in tears on the phone talkin to me for some sanity cus he's had her so upset.
I've had the displeasure of hearing some of these calls, and he always started with "whats wrong with me?" or "why don't women like me?" or some other insecirity, and he wonders why she dumped him? All he ever crapped on about was his fucking guitar skills and how he was so fantastic at playing guitar but people didn't want to listen to him because other people were crappier and they'd rather listen to them. You can't have a conversation with this bloke, he is ALWAYS right and his opinion is RIGHT and thats the end of it. He'd hang out of her car window and abuse people for minor incidents on the road (imagine how embarassed the poor girl was?), he wouldn't listen to anyones opinions, (cus his was right you see) and after a few drinks he only had three topics of conversation:
1. why he was the second best guitar player in the world,
2. how great Yngwi Malmsteen is
3. how people listen to shit music when he was OBVIOUSLY a better guitar player than anyone on the radio.
She's at the stage now where if he DOES neck himself she won't give a fuck, she'll be relieved that he's gone from her life.
Just to show you how FUCKING PSYCHO this bloke is, he FINALLY went to see a psychiatrist to sort out his problems (instead of just blaming his ex), and then all she heard for months was how he was bi-polar, it wasn't his fault he was so up and down, but he "didn't need medication" because he was a "strange case" where he was stable in himself except for outside influences... Does that mean every woman who's got a perod cramp is bi-polar?
She moved out of home and all was quiet until she started getting messages that he was in a motel "just stringing up the rope now". She hadn't heard from him for a month and she told me last time they spoke he was happy, with a new chick and that life was good. Then out of the blue she gets these suicide messages? AGAIN???
She tried after a few days to contact him but to no avail. In the end she sent a message to a work mate of his to see if he was ok. The next night she got a barrage of abusive texts from his new bitch, obviously he's poisoned the new floozy with shit that never happened and the messages went almost all night. He was too gutless to dial the number and have a mature, adult conversation so he got his beached whale to do it for him, via sms.
Since then she hasn't heard from him or the new wench, THANK GOD. This guy just couldn't accept what had happened. She has had too many sleepless nights worried sick if this bloke will kill himself over her, and he needs to just get a life. She has almost had to change her phone number to get rid of this FREAK. I'm suprised he's not doing laps of her street to see if she's home yet. She'd go to the Keyse with her friends and he'd conveniently 'drop in on his way home for a drink'. He's bordering on becoming a stalker.
This guy is nothing but a loser with a small dick, alot of insecurities and a bad case of hallitosis. Probably a bad case of premature ejeculation too.
ON BEHALF OF MY FRIEND:
Fuck off and leave her alone.
4/23/08 04:43PM - ElleDriver - I really feel for your friend. Why didn't she put a restraining order on him? My ex is bi polar and it's a lot to contend with. It's not very pleasant and can be incredibly draining when you're dealing with someone who has it though refuses to receive treatment. It's more than likely that the therapist prescribed medication though he's made the choice not to take it; that's the whole point of bi polar; it clouds your judgement through mountains of disillusion. I find the story you tell more than valid, though I don't quite understand your period cramp analogy; made no logical sense to me whatsoever. And, I'm sure it was a really difficult situation for everyone involved, though attacking the size of his penis, halitosis and even touching on premature ejaculation proves that at this point, your behaviour's no better than his. Show some integrity; stick to the facts without having to make it personal. And more to the point it doesn't make your friend look all that glamorous either. So think about what you're writing and how it's creating for everyone to look here. Not just him. The whole problem is that if he has bi polar everything in his mind is more than distorted; he wont remember a lot of the things he's doing, and it will only worsen in time if he continues to refuse the appropriate treatment for it. I don't condone his behaviour because I've been in your friends situation. It's a hard thing to go through and really fucks with your head. But having said that, he has a genuine illness, so instead of beating his persona and the girth of his cock on here, have your friend place a restraining order on him and move on with some integrity.To post a comment you must be logged in to your account
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